Frequently Asked Questions
What's the best way to contact you?
I like the cut of your jib, and I may want to see you sometime in the future. May I pre-screen?
Yes, I welcome pre-screeners.
Are you available now? How about now?
Due to the volume of inquiries I receive, general "are you available?" queries are unlikely to get a response. Your best bet is to complete my booking form with your location and desired date details — these detailed inquiries get the quickest response from me. The more information I get from you upfront, the easier it is to arrange a rendezvous. This is the case whether you wish to see me in two hours, two days or two months.
How old are you?
Can I use you as a reference?
Yes, I offer references via email. If I have seen you once, I will vouch for you once; if I have seen you twice, I can vouch for you twice, and so on. References beyond that will incur a $40 fee.
May I review you?
No, I do not allow reviews. The review system is exploitative and gamed by those with fake reviews. I will blacklist those who don't adhere to my no-review policy.
If you enjoyed our time together, feel free to email me a testimonial to post on my website. I welcome testimonials that respect the sanctity of our time together.
Where are you from?
California, though I've lived in New York City for almost a decade. These two places perfectly represent the yin and yang of my personality. I will always embody California's laid-back nature, free spiritedness, and love of the outdoors (and peace and quiet). Meanwhile, my New York side is perceptive, decisive, wry, quick-witted, meticulous and glamorous.
Are you a natural blonde?
I want to see you, but I don't want to complete your booking form or give you any screening info. Will you see me?
Will you see me even though I’m black/white, old/young, a newbie, whatever/whatever?
Yes! I only care that you are safe and respectful.
Louder for those in the back: I only care that you are safe and respectful.
Being safe and respectful encompasses a few things:
- Respecting my time, boundaries, policies and welfare
- Behaving with discretion
- Communicating clearly, avoiding sending mixed messages, and contacting me only when you are ready to schedule an appointment
- Submitting your screening info (and a deposit, if required) from the get-go, without me having to nag you for it
- Being punctual
My group of friends is diverse. I enjoy spending time with people of all races, ages, backgrounds, medical histories, sexual orientations, etc.
If you have a medical condition, disability or other factor that will have a bearing on our time together, simply let me know when you book and I will be thrilled to accommodate.
Do you enjoy what you do?
Yes, tremendously! I find this avocation extremely fulfilling — both creatively and personally.
I’m new to this, and I’m not sure what to do! Help?
First: The best way to get my attention is to fill out my Booking Form in its entirety. Second: Reach out to me when — and only when — you’re ready to schedule a date with me (even if that date is far in the future).
Do you require deposits?
Deposits are strongly suggested if you wish to see me while I am touring. Without a deposit of $100 or more, our date is merely penciled in. Deposits show you are series about seeing me and allow me to book my tour, plan my schedule, and minimize the financial risk inherent with touring (despite popular belief, I do not have a Scrooge McDuck-style money pit).
Deposits are payable via e-gift cards, Venmo or bitcoin.
For NYC dates, deposits are not required, though I may ask for one at my discretion — especially if I haven’t seen you before, or if you have cancelled or no-showed on me in the past. Offering to pay a deposit without me asking is a great way to endear yourself to me. I take digital payments and bitcoin, plus an analog workaround (which takes 2-3 days, so please allow for that).
I require 50% deposits for all dates of four hours or longer. This allows me to safely block off the time in my calendar.
Some of my friends prefer to put down a deposit larger than 20%, or to prepay for dates in full. You are more than welcome to do so.
What is your cancellation policy?
I do enforce a simple cancellation policy. If you cancel on me within 2 hours before our booking, you will be required to pay 1/2 of the total fee. This fee will need to be paid before I will arrange a booking with you again.
For our date, can I make a request around your outfit, shoes, etc.?
Yes! I have a wide-ranging wardrobe and I’m happy to take requests around my wardrobe and grooming. My personal style is feminine, elegant, and classic, and I love dressing up; for evening/dinner dates, I usually wear a designer vintage dress and heels. For more casual dates (e.g. those involving an activity), I wear a smart casual ensemble.
I often get requests for casual outfits (e.g. jeans) and athletic wear/yoga pants — and I’m happy to oblige.
If you wish to see me while I am touring, please tell me your outfit request at least a week in advance so I can pack accordingly.
Do you have novel date ideas?
Absolutely! I’m happy to suggest activities, shows, and cultural events we'll both enjoy. An afternoon kayaking, scaling the wall at Brooklyn Boulders or learning to make paella? Let's plan!
Do you tour?
Yes! While my home base is NYC, I love to travel and regularly visit cities such as Philadelphia and Washington, DC. I plan to add new cities to my repertoire whenever I can — however, if you are outside NYC’s tri-state area and want to see me, your best bet is a Fly-Me-to-You.
Will you visit me in [Fargo/Timbuktu/Kalamazoo?]
If you want to see me in a city where I’m not touring, please book a Fly Me to You date — available for bookings of four hours or more. Please contact me for details.
Can I whisk you away for a trip to [Bali/Hawaii/Transylvania]?
Yes, I am passport-ready and an energetic and adventurous vacation partner. I require a 50% deposit and reimbursement of my travel costs. I will book my own travel.
Can I get you a gift?
First of all, thank you for your generosity! I love receiving both physical gifts and e-gift cards (or just a note or e-card to say that you are thinking of me).
My favorite physical gifts: A bouquet of lovely fresh flowers, fine dark chocolates or caramels, or a bottle of nice dry white wine or bubbly. Or tequila! Or a gift certificate for AIRE Ancient Baths here in NYC.
My favorite brands of lingerie are Loveday London, Fleur Du Mal, Bordelle, Taryn Winters, Janay Delicately British, and Fréolic. Journelle and Pleasurements always have deliciously naughty options — and free shipping.
I can’t see you in person, but I think you’re cool. How can I show my appreciation from afar?
Thanks! I think you're pretty cool too. Here are a few ways:
- Join my Members Only section — you’ll support my independent creations and enjoy some nifty smut (with fresh nifty smut added at least once a month). It’s a win win!
- Buy me a gift or e-gift card
- Follow me on Twitter
- Subscribe to my newsletter, THE AFTERGLOW (scroll down for the sign-up link)